If my kids get sick in the middle of the night, they call, “Dad!” It’s been that way since they were little. I trained them to do that, to give their mother who stayed at home with them all day a break.
Even now, with one in college and two in the high school years, if they get sick after hours, they call, “Dad!” I love that they have no doubt I’m just a few steps away, and although I may not be able to make everything better, I’ll sure try.
You might say I practiced attachment fathering. And you’d be right. Have I taught my children to do things on their own? Absolutely. But I’ve also taught them that calling out for help is not a weakness. In fact, when you need help often the bravest thing you can do is ask for it.
I’m afraid we give our children incredibly mixed signals when we emphasize independence at the expense of dependence, especially in regard to the life of faith, where we’re supposed to be totally, well, dependent on God. Yes, sorta strange.
So much of the story of Moses is about attachment fathering—God training Moses and the Hebrew people to cry out to Him. Unfortunately this wasn’t a one-and-done lesson. It took years and years and more years; and even after all the miracles in Egypt and the plagues and the pillars of fire and cloud and the supernatural provisions in the middle of nowhere, some still doubted God was with them.
But God was as close as their breath, ready to respond to their pleas for help, to show to the watching world (at that time, Pharaoh’s army) that He was the good Father who fiercely loved His people and would do anything, anything at all, to make good on His promises to them.
There may not be a Red Sea in front of you, but chances are good there’s something out there, something that threatens to cause you to lose heart, maybe even give up. If Moses were here right now (which he sorta is, via the living Word of God) I believe he’d say this: Cry out to the good Father! Tell Him what’s going on, that you need help or you’re in trouble, or both. He will fight the battle for you, if you’ll let Him. Trust me, I’ve seen wonders like you would not believe. Why once, the Israelites walked through the sea on dry ground! No god is great like God!
Written by John Blase